I say to you, “Ditch your friends now.”
“But I like them!,” you may say. “Why do I need to ditch my friends now?” Have you ever heard…
‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.’
~ Jim Rohn
The premise behind this quote, I believe, is because of two things:
The fact that most people reflect their environment
See, the Law of Averages dictates that when you “plant seeds” many will die. But, because you continue to sow, some will also grow – simply because you continued to sow and the Law of Averages demands that, over time, you’ll reap rewards on that which you sow consistently. That said, you may be thinking, “Well, Crystal, I continue to sow the seeds of what I want consistently, so I’ll reap those rewards eventually no matter what.” In reality, no… because those who you spend time with and the environment you lock yourself into will affect the quality of seeds you’re sowing. The seeds may be dropping, but the soil may be of poor quality or the water may be scarce.
Even I pride myself on my ability to submerge myself in environments and people who are far removed from “where I am” in terms of life, level of success, etc. and remain unaffected, but that doesn’t mean I’m totally unaffected and have total disregard for the influencers in my life and never need a reprieve. For most people, if you spend the majority of your time around negative people, let’s say, it won’t be long before you’re talking and thinking just like them. It’s very difficult to be unaffected. Likewise, if those people earn less income than you want to, they’re unable to stretch you and your thinking to the point you need to be, to become the person necessary to receive and responsibly handle that which you seek. Their view of the world is different.
For instance, the average person will use the terminology “spend time”. I want you to think about that for just a moment. Spend time. Most of us would agree that “time” is our most valuable asset, right? Time to “live”. Time to learn. Time to “spend” with friends and family. Right? Isn’t it fair to say, then, that we don’t “spend” our time anywhere, doing anything… we invest it? When you invest, you do so expecting a return, do you not? So, by the same premise, do you spend time living? What about learning? Do you even spend time with loved ones – because you at least expect to receive an enjoyable time and, perhaps, some great memories to take with you, yes?
Measure Your Assets
Now take a quick inventory of two things:
- Who are the top five people you invest your time (really, your thoughts, energy, and future) with?
- Are those people where you’are currently “at”, where you’ve “been”, or where you want to “be”?
If you invest your money but get no return over time, would you continue to invest your money there? Likely not. The influence of your environment and those you hang around most are no different.
Now, am I saying that you need to ex-nay every person whose shoulders you’re unable to climb upon for your own personal gain forever and ever? Absolutely not! In fact, you should never, in my opinion, only gravitate toward people who are “ahead of you” for the purpose of your personal gain. Despite the fact that you may be “behind” them at the current moment doesn’t mean you also have nothing to offer them. Nor does it mean that those “behind” you have nothing to offer you. Simply make a decision to make the top five influencers in your life of a status and quality that you seek to become.
Yes, I can hear you now, “Well, I want to be a millionaire, but I don’t know anybody who’s a millionaire.”
The truth is: It’s great if you meet them, form a relationship, and so on… but it’s not required in order for them to influence you. Read about them. Learn their life’s lessons. Glean their wisdom from interviews, auto-biographies, etc. They’re still going to influence your learning and, hence, your life and lifestyle. If you submerge yourself in such a way, you’ll find yourself walking in their confidence, talking like them, thinking like them, and taking actions they would take. And, before you know it, you’ll look around and find yourself meeting real live millionaires!
So… take personal inventory today, look at where you are and where you want to be in life, and decide if you need to …
Ditch Your Friends Now!
To your success…