Okay, so, I’ve not been feeling very well. It seems nearly everybody who I spend time around on a daily or even regular kind of basis is or has been fighting some kind of icky sickness stuff.
First I start feeling some icky, achy stuff. Then I get some pressure in my head, like, behind my eyes. You know what I mean? Then yesterday I just couldn’t do it. My actual HEAD hurt… so I honestly slept part of my afternoon away.
And, yes, admittedly, it’s kinda messed up my writing vibe. I hate when that happens!
Today, I still feel a bit out of sorts, but couldn’t quite grasp what, if anything, I had to offer of value. So, I did what every normal person does: started checking e-mail and surfing my social media sites. lol
Much to my surprise, I found myself so taken by a couple of musical videos that the resounding thought was, “THIS is the perfect way to end a week! They must be shared.”
The first one is just amazing. When this song first came out (No, I’m not gonna tell you what or who it is. You’ll know it as soon as you start it, though; it’s almost guaranteed.), I really wasn’t too sure I was gonna like it. I was gonna turn the channel. (Yes, I’m “one of those”. A channel-hopper. Let a song come on I don’t care for, a commercial that takes too long, a commentator who goes off on a tangent that fails to grab my attention… Poof! Gone. In an instant.) My son kept coaxing me to “just wait” because he was SURE I was going to like it. For whatever reason, I still didn’t — until several weeks after it had been released. I guess it grew on me. This video, though, was a slam-dunk the first time I saw it. Check it out!
See what I mean? It’s not over, though, so just hang tight.
My next and final selection is also a very popular song and one that’s also quite inspirational. Empowering. This one I can say I instantly liked the first time I heard it. Again, though, I’d not seen any kind of video to or with it. (I just don’t do much TV or even internet surfing in that way.) These guys brought this song to me through a whole new light. In fact, I’m not sure I’ll ever think of it the same whenever I hear it. See what you think.
Nothing short of incredible, right?
Okay, so I’ve been a bit cheesy. It’s abnormal for me. I already told you in a previous post about what a deep-thinker I am… and that’s true. After a week like this one, though, and the way I’ve felt for the past few days… God just knew exactly what I needed and gave it right to me.
I hope you added longevity to your life today, as I have mine. (Laughter and joyfulness has been proven to raise your vibration, improve your health, and add years to your life.)
Oh, and, bonus:
They cured my writer’s block because I felt I just HAD to share them.
(Excuse me for being cheesy. A word of caution if you’re a regular reader of my blog: I’ve been told that my brain sometimes goes off in an entirely different direction sometimes. I’m okay with it. 🙂 )
Hope you had a fantastic Friday!
P.S. Another reason to like today? It’s Financial Freedom Friday! If you’re not a part, join here. It’s free!
The term “team” is typically used in reference to sports or direct sales and network marketing. In reality, though, nearly every person (especially adult) on the planet has a team. That being the case, when asked, you also have supervisory skills. 🙂 The only question is how good those skills are. Allow me to explain and put to rest the myth that if you’re not involved in sports or network marketing – or are involved in network marketing but have yet to attract people into your downline – you have no team… and no way to hone your leadership skills.
Sports is easy, right? Unless you’re involved in a solo kind of sport like individual tennis, skiing, and so forth (with no hope of playing at a level where bigger teams are formed, like the Olympics), defining your team and the hierarchy within the team is fairly simple. Probably not a lot of explanation needed on this one. You either have one or not. You’re either a part of one, or you’re not. So let’s look at what “team” means in other areas of life and how it’s applicable to your professional life, level of success, and leadership skills.
See, in network marketing, terminology like “team” is often used in reference to your downline, or those who are recruited and coded to you for the sake of commission overrides. Think of it like a real estate brokerage office: Everybody in that particular office is a member of that broker’s team. Got it? Then, outside of hourly employees (such as clerical staff), the broker receives a commission from the sale of every darn house sold by any and all of his or her real estate agents.
Now, if you weren’t already aware of that fact, hang with me for a few minutes before you allow your feathers to get all ruffled. This is actually as it should be, in my opinion – only the amount would be up for debate from my viewpoint.
A broker is entitled to this override for several reasons:
1. He or She is required to acquire and hold a higher license than a real estate agent. This license allows them to supervise other agents. That’s not all, though, because when I say “supervise”, I could also interchange “be held responsible or accountable” for other agents. So if an agent in their office creates a liability in a transaction or contract, the broker is ultimately held responsible for overseeing the activity of the agent. This means that, even though the agent acted, the broker may end up bearing the brunt of any issues or lawsuits because he/she is supposed to ensure the agent really knows what they’re doing and that it’s done correctly and properly. That alone is a big responsibility, from where I stand.
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “the greater the risk, the greater the potential reward”. I’d say that’s accurate in most instances… including this one.
2. It’s the broker who ultimately pays and is held accountable for paying for all the normal expenses of that office. Things like electricity, heating and air, phone landlines, and so on – even though the agents often have their own areas to meet clients and conduct business. That also means that his or her name is the one listed as being responsible (or liable, depending how you want to look at it) on any lease agreements.
So, see, when it comes to a pay structure, a brokerage is very similar to network marketing. The biggest difference I’m aware of, being that a brokerage is contained to or limited by one broker and the number of agents that can be “housed” in that office. In direct sales (aka network marketing), those limits typically do not exist. Let’s move outside the pay structure, though, so we can dispel this thought that if you don’t have a “team” in this conventional way of thinking, you (a) have no team and (b) have no leadership skills (or the opportunity to hone any).
Believe it or not, we’re all in sales, which is the profession we hear the term “team” used mostly. Every one of us. Yep, even you. The person who says they love sales and everything about sales… is involved in sales. The person who says they absolutely hate sales, everything related to sales, and every salesperson they ever met… is involved in sales themselves. How can I say that? Well, let’s look at the facts.
From the day you were born, you not only became aware of “sales” and the necessary skill of persuasion, you began to practice those skills. Who was it, as a toddler, who would either bat those pretty long eyelashes or baby blues in order to get Mom or Dad to give you what you wanted? Or, who was it who threw themselves in the middle of the floor, screaming, kicking, and yelling until Mom or Dad gave you your way? Granted, one is obviously better and exhibits more finesse than the other, but they’re both sales. “I want [this], and I need to “talk” Mom or Dad into giving it to me.”
As we age, we either get better or worse, but it’s still sales.
Then, if you’ve ever been asked on a date or asked somebody out on a date, you were practicing sales, right? I mean, you were either “buying” or you were “selling” (yourself) to the other person. Starting to make sense? This means that, even if you thought or have always been told you sucked at sales, there must’ve been a time… I’m jus sayin. 🙂
Take a minute and think about all the times you’ve practiced being a buyer and salesperson throughout your life thus far. Were you a good buyer? What about a good salesperson? Did you get better or worse as you aged?
If you’ll remember, I wrote a recent post where we discussed the fact that fear is a learned response to certain stimuli, and, as a learned response, it can also be un-learned, so to speak, if you choose to. Well, you weren’t born a salesperson; it just didn’t take you long to figure out that doing certain things were more apt to convince your “buyer” to do as you wanted, give you what you wanted, etc. If you really hone your sales skills on a professional level you learn, of course, that the art of selling is much more and, if done properly, you’re not selling people things they don’t want to buy (which may be the case as a toddler or young child); you’re actually educating the buyer and helping them make a decision about the purchase they’re already contemplating. Real sales (as I’ve been taught) is more asking than it is telling, which I’ve also found more people to be most receptive to. This way the “buyer” gets to feel totally in control of the process.
Are we good on this?
Great! Let’s integrate all this knowledge on the correlating myths as they relate to teams, team-building, and leadership.
Remember I said that even YOU have a team? Like, right now, YOU (most likely) have a team. It may be a team of one or hundreds of thousands, but you have a team.
In conventional employment, a team may be a department, a group of managers, a supervisor and a subordinate… Teams. There are upline and downline teams. There are horizontal teams. There are vertical teams. Conventional businesses and conventional teams.
Let’s say you’re not in a conventional business, though. Let’s say you have an online or offline network marketing business that you’re building. And let’s just say, for the sake of argument, that you have nobody who’s joined your current downline. So you think you don’t have a team… but you’re wrong, and thinking that way will actually sabotage what you’re striving to achieve. The reality is that you DO have a team; you’re just in the mode of preparing for them – or that team in particular, anyway.
Look at your life.
If you have a child or children, you have a team. If you have a girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife, you have a team. If you have a family (that you actually associate with lol), you have a team. If you have close friends who you hang out with, maybe “break bread” with, you have a team. And, I might add, you also have supervisory and leadership skills. Now, I can’t guarantee that this philosophy is going to fly if you try to put it on your resume, but I can tell you — as somebody who previously built a very loyal and stable network marketing team, as well as somebody who’s currently involved in the network marketing arena — the dynamics of these teams in your life and how you lead and work with them would certainly have a bearing to me if I was considering you for my team. These interactions and relationships are some of the most trying in life, so if you learn to lead gracefully and follow when necessary, you’ll have impeccable leadership skills when your new team finally finds you.
Here’s a Pepsi commercial to help illustrate the effectiveness of a small, yet powerful and un-covnentional team.. and what it can do for you!
(I don’t necessarily suggest you round up your posse and try THAT, but I did think it was funny. You get the idea, right? 🙂 )
Here’s another example: Let’s say you’re married and have umpteen-dozen children. In fact, you have your own softball, basketball, or football team. If you’re able to maintain a good relationship with your spouse and children while leading them effectively, by all means, click here and join my team. Seriously, right now. The conventional world may tell you that you have no real team-building or leadership skills, but I know better. The abilities and skills that you’ve acquired and honed so you can effectively manage and grow this part of your life truly isn’t that big of leap to what you’ll need to succeed in the same capacity in business, on a professional level. (Good thing we could care less about degrees and the like in my business. Lol)
Now, as you begin to shift your thinking in this way, you’ll also find that you begin to behave differently, too. And, as you begin to behave differently, you’ll find that you also begin to attract the team you desire into your life and business – whether conventional or not, online or off. You can’t help it.
So, stop being sad, thinking, “…but I don’t HAVE a team.”
I’ve just proven to you that you do. I’ve proven to you that you have supervisory and leadership skills that you may have never realized you have. What I’m NOT telling you is that you’re done learning, you have no need to improve or grow, or all you need to do is sit back and wait. That’s all false. You must do all those things, or you’ll find (in short order) you have a team that’s outgrown you – much the same way as one partner in a relationship may outgrow another. The learning and growing on your part is vital to the longevity and stability of your team – personal or professional. Just remember…
If you know me at all, you know I tend to be a deep-thinker. I see the universe in wide-open spaces and limitless possibilities vs. the boxes that other people and society as a whole wants to shove people, situations, circumstances, outcomes, and expectations into. My standards and expectations are high – for myself and anybody who engages with me, pretty much on any level. And, I have a knack for being able to take a time and space, step outside myself, and see it from various other perspectives.
So recently, when visiting my parents, I caught myself stepping outside and observing us all (and especially them) as I began to ponder life. What does it mean? How’s it really meant to be lived? Why are so many people feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned? And, most importantly, what can I personally do about it?
Here’s the deal:
I grew up in what would probably be defined as a middle-income family. A very blended (mom, step-moms [yes, plural, ugh…], dad, step-dad, sister, step-sisters [on both sides of the equation], a step-brother [who I never really came to know because he chose to stop coming around and has never changed course], another step-brother [who just became a part of my life a few years ago – shout out to Neal :)], and a half-brother) family. Monetarily okay but certainly with boundaries.
As you may imagine, there can be a fair amount of emotional baggage that builds up over time with such a “rich” (lol) and dynamic, um, upbringing, shall we say. Truthfully, I became aware of some of this baggage at a fairly young age and learned how to use it to motivate myself toward more positive things. This isn’t something I necessarily recommend, because, over time, the harboring of all the negativity can take serious tolls if not dealt with, which I did, but it can certainly work quite well “for the moment”.
It’s mostly because of those adversities, however, that I became a stronger, more motivated, and very determined person, I believe.
See, when you’re faced with “life”, you have choices. We all have choices. Even when you think you don’t, you really do; just look more closely. (Even when you decide to not decide something, you’ve still made a decision. Get it?) Making those choices and decisions set you on certain paths. It doesn’t mean you can never change your trajectory; it only means that until you choose to change your trajectory, “this” is the course you’re on. So when faced with adversity, choose, right? I mean, choose what you are or aren’t going to do about it.
Choose whether or not you’re going to allow the situation and circumstance to define you or if you’re going to leverage it to move you in a more positive and productive direction. For me, I’ve always chosen the latter. Don’t misunderstand, though, the majority of the human population will choose the first – including my own family.
This means that I’ve also always been the “outsider”. The “black sheep”, if you will. I’ve been hated on… by my own family (and countless others who don’t even know me)… because I’m different – and people in general tend to fear and feel uncomfortable in the presence of or when faced with that which they don’t understand. I’m okay with it. 🙂
Am I a “bad” person? No, not at all, in my opinion. In fact, I think I’m one of the “better” kinds of people. I’m honest… to a default, I’ve been told (which can sometimes be painful, for both me and the person I’m being honest with lol). I’m extremely loyal… to those who earn it. (I’ve said – on more than one occasion – I AM the person who will “go down with the ship”, simply because I believe in something and will not falter just because it’s not the most popular belief or stance.) I only expect of others what I expect of myself – despite how high those standards may be. When you have my friendship and love, you have the absolute best parts of me.
Conversely, I (like most people) have an alternate side. It’s not one I keep hidden. In fact, I’m pretty open about it and freely warn people of it. For all the “good” I am and can be, I’m not typically the person you want to “cross” either. Oh, I don’t do mean, malicious things to people; I simply have a divine capacity to call upon those adversities and derive a strength that allows me to push forward and beyond others who want to be mean and malicious to me.
Do I “get even”? Not really. Life, in all its glory, has taught me that that kind of anger and vengefulness can hurt others, of course, but I feel ultimately destroys the person who holds it more. In fact, I tend to view those people and situations by dealing with whatever the situation is within myself, then forgiving and releasing the other person. (Bear in mind: Forgiveness is for YOU, not the other person. The Bible calls me to forgive, but my duty stops there. What the other person does isn’t for me to determine or concern myself with. Their life is their life to live and deal with.) Now, when warranted, I will do my part in correcting “wrongs”, though. I refuse to be trampled upon and shoved aside. It’s a matter of respect – for myself and that which I feel every person is entitled… until and unless they prove themselves to be unworthy of mine. My term: value. Simply put.
So what does all this have to do with stepping outside myself and observing my parents?
There wasn’t really anything “special” about this day, and this outside observance wasn’t really anything I intentionally set out to do. It’s just kinda like, all-of-a-sudden I was watching a movie instead of participating in the moment. I watched them move. I saw how they interacted with one another. I listened intently to their words, and the tones and inflections of those words. And, despite all their pride and grandeur that I remember from years gone by, I saw something deeper in those few moments. And I had to ask myself some very tough questions… thus some very tough decisions to come, as a result.
See, growing up, my mom was “home” with us kids. I was raised by my mom and bonus dad, but my bonus dad always had his own business. As far back as I consciously recall, anyway. He worked a lot. I hardly remember a time he wasn’t working – whether it was in his business, around the house, in the garage or yard, etc. And my mom… Well, she’s always been the “sacrificial lamb”, per se. You know, the one who will always do without things she wants, needs, and desires so others can have their way, wants, etc. (Yes, there are times she’s let slip how hurt she’s felt about some of those things – because people tend to take advantage more than they tend to reciprocate.)
My parents are now older. In their 70s. Still self-sufficient, thank you, Jesus… and fairly good health – with the occasional “scare”, but that can happen to any of us at any given moment.
So while I watched, listened, and allowed my entire being to take in all the sensory possibilities of this time, all I could think is…
THIS is life???
And the resounding answer in my head said, “No, there’s no WAY “THIS” could be what LIFE is supposed to be.”
Are you really suppose to dedicate over 2/3 of your living years to working, giving, providing… all for the betterment of others… just so you can reach that last 1/3 and worry about medical bills, having enough money to meet your monthly obligations, wanting what you want and feeling like you’ve earned it but still being unable to have or get it without “selling your soul”?? Again, the voice in my head said (louder this time), “No!”
The next question became, “What are YOU going to do about it?”
Right? Because everything is a choice, right? I mean, even in this situation, there are a multitude of choices.
I can say, “No” and only concern myself with the fact that their reality isn’t going to be my reality and what I’m going to do to be certain it’s not.
I can say, “No” and think about my own son and how I ensure he never feels how I was feeling in that moment.
I can say, “No” and wonder what all my other siblings are going to do (or help do) about it.
Or, I can say, “No” and decide what I’M going to do about it. All of it.
Because I have this baggage that became my strength enabling me to dig deep within myself and create a massive change whenever and wherever I want, right? (By the way, we all have this. YOU have this. You may not know it. You may think you’ve lost it. Let me assure you: It’s there. It’s still there. And even if you think that “fire” in the pit of your stomach and core of your being is gone… it’s not. Any time you choose to dig deep, you’ll find it. Just call upon it, and it will rise up, assisting you to create and manifest whatever you want in life. Sorry, I digress. Lol)
Now, this “decision” was already in full swing when I learned a few other pieces to the puzzle that only serve to fuel the fire:
My MOM is ready to finally see and acknowledge some of her OWN worth and the fact that she’s just as entitled to live and do things that make HER happy as she’s done for others all these years. (I mentioned to her our company’s next live event in a few months in Nashville and told her she should go with me. [She’s a country-and-western, Elvis-lovin’ nut. J ] At first she balked. Then, about 30 minutes later, she called me back asking about the details and said she “just might” need to do that.)
My BONUS DAD had gone BACK to work to supplement his income, and I learned that, despite the pain of a recurring sciatic nerve issue, he’s been getting up every morning and going to work. THAT is NOT life. Not by my definition anyway.
So, it’s with a new resolve that the next chapter of my life begins.
It’s a situation they’re unable to resolve on their own. It’s a situation that I will also benefit from as I resolve theirs (because as I become focused and work toward fulfilling what I feel THEIR life should offer them, I can’t HELP but improve my own – Do you see that? It’s not my motivation, but it’s certainly a by-product.), thus making them happier because they’ll never have to worry about “me” (not that they’ve ever really had to – I’ve always been the self-sufficient child. Lol ).
See, sometimes we view life’s adversities in a negative light, but I want to challenge your perspective on that today. I’ve likely had more adversity in my life than most… and, yet, far less than others who have overcome their circumstances. There are many things I’ve endured in my life that you, dear reader, will likely never know… unless you come to know me personally – simply because, although I remember and keep those times ever-present in my mind, I choose to not dwell there.
You, too, have a choice:
Allow your adversities to determine who you are, where you’re going, who you’ll become, what you’ll achieve, the life you’ll live, the life you’ll part from, what you’ll leave behind, and who will miss you or…
Repackage those adversities and leverage them to grow your determination and resolve to meet new heights, live a higher quality of life, provide more value and happiness to others, and live in the full greatness you were always meant to.
Ask any entrepreneur and they’ll tell you that one of the most critical success factors is the ability to lean into your fear. What does that even mean, though?
Certainly there are as many definitions of what it means to be successful as there are people who actually give thought to it. Why? Because success is very subjective. What it means to you could be entirely different from what it means to me.
Couple that with the definition of fear, which is also pretty darn subjective, right? I mean, we humans fear all kinds of things: fear of flying, fear of people, and, heck, even fear itself… as well as nearly everything else under the sun.
Somehow when we put these two words together, they take on minds and bodies of their own. There’s even a fear of success! Crazy, right??
I’ve read, by the way, that fear is taught, not inherent… for the most part. “They” (whomever the “powers that be” are in the scientific realms that study this stuff) say that we’re only born with two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.
Personally, this makes sense to me because you spend roughly nine months incubating in a safe, warm, cramped, muffled environment only to find yourself released one day into a seemingly loud, cold, and very big place that’s completely foreign to you. If I had to guess, I’d say the “loud” thing is due to the fact that, while in the womb, everything you hear – from the sound of your own mother’s heartbeat and voice to the roar of thunder to the slam of a door – is muffled by distance, liquid, etc. And that fear of falling thing (which I find to be akin to the fear of flying – If you fly, you could fall, right? That could be a long way down.) comes into play because, again, you’re incubated in a relatively small compartment where you’re sealed on all sides, yet get to move however you want with no risk of ever falling. So, when you’re born, everything you knew to be safe is gone – hence fear.
Bottom line: If fear is taught… it can be un-taught, don’t you think?
Alright. Now let’s begin to apply this to becoming a “successmaker”.
Since we all pretty much have definite thoughts and reactions to success and fear, yet they’re almost polar opposites, and each cancels out or prevents the other from catching traction in your life, how do we use this knowledge to our advantage? You lean into your fear – provided your quest is to be successful. If it’s not, well, you needn’t do anything except allow your fears to control your life. For the rest of us…
1. Spend some time first figuring out what defines success to you. Be clear and specific about it. Is it money or acquiring money (because, ironically, that’s NOT the case for everybody – even some people who have lots of money)? Is it to be the best mom or dad you can be? Is it to achieve a sense of fulfillment with your Creator and find peace in that relationship? There’s something. Figure it out, and write it down.
2. Spend some time figuring out what you fear most. This may take a bit more time because humans are funny creatures who tend to mask their fears with other emotions or justifications. Your fear of commitment may stem from a feeling of abandonment way back in your early childhood. I’m just sayin’.
For instance, I have a significant hydrophobia (or fear of water). This doesn’t mean, like, bath water, but, like big bodies of water – pools, lakes, rivers, oceans, etc. I can tell you with 100% certainty that this fear was learned as a result of a sunny summer afternoon with my sister at the pool – who thought it’d be “cute” to take her little sister who couldn’t tread water down to the diving area and “drop her off”. So see, this experience as a young child ruined swimming and water sports for me from that point on.
Write yours down.
3. Here’s where the painful and most productive work takes place. CHOOSE which is stronger: your will and desire to succeed or the fear of “whatever” you feel. (Some people even have a fear of people, believe it or not! That’s a real thing, apparently.) If you decide the fear is stronger, do nothing. Stop reading. Stop this short exercise. Put down your pen and paper, laptop, or other device. You need not expend one more ounce of energy to achieve your end result and defined level of success. If your desire for success is stronger, however, read on.
Still with me? AWESOME! I’m still here, too. Lol
4. Make a decision right now to “lean into your fear”. This means: consciously plan a way to meet your fear head-on, work through it, and overcome it. Now, odds are, you’re gonna have to engage in so-called fearful activities a few times; just stick with it.
Taking my fear of water issue, for example…
When my son was fairly young, he LOVED water. He was probably part fish.
I saw this early on and decided to open opportunities to explore this love – despite my own fears. To this, though, safety and precautions had to be implemented, right? So, off to the YMCA we go… at 6 months of age… until he was about 8 or 9. Swimming lessons. I knew that if we were at a pool or something (because I wasn’t about to allow MY fear to ruin HIS love) and he found himself in trouble, beyond a shadow of a doubt – fear or not, outcome good or bad – I’d go in after him. Now, maybe I’d surprise myself (like other heroic stories) and “miraculously” save us both, but I wanted to stack the odds as much in our favor as possible.
As he grew, though, he wanted ME to engage in swimming and water sports with him – even to the point that HE determined he’d “teach” me to swim… just so we could enjoy this time together! My heart ached.
So, I “leaned into my fear”, took a deep breath, picked up the phone, and scheduled some private swimming lessons for myself. I didn’t tell him about them but went while he was in school and such. (Telling him would ruin the surprise.) Then, one day a few months later when he asked me to get into the pool with him, I said, “Okay.” He was so surprised and excited. I’ll never forget that day… his expression…
Don’t misunderstand. I’m NOT a world-class swimmer, and I still do NOT like big bodies of water. (Let’s say I have a deep respect for them and what can happen in them; that sounds good.) I AM a bit contradictory about it now, though, because the idea of a cruise actually sounds appealing to me (I’ve not quite been able to secede to the “pleasure over potential pain” in this activity yet.). I did go para-sailing with my son once (tandem, just me and him), and actually found that I like that a lot – as long as I never hit the water. Lol And, various water sports look like a bunch of fun to me, like jet skis and stuff. (I only boat on shallow-water river type excursions and when my bonus dad is driving because everybody else – seemingly – thinks, again, that it’s “cute” to scare the girl who’s already terrified. I’ve learned, so I just don’t do it.)
Lucky for me… my fear of water doesn’t prevent me from achieving my definition of success. If my definition involved becoming a marine biologist or something like that, there could be a much greater issue. Get it?
So, where the proverbial “rubber meets the road” is the spot where your definition and desire for becoming a “successmaker” clashes with your fear. THAT is where you lean into it.
Let’s scale it back a bit and choose a very simple example.
If you’ve found yourself in Sales but have a significant fear of the phone – essentially, calling people – you have two choices:
• Allow your fear to dictate and find another career choice where you may achieve a lesser degree of success
• Lean into your fear. If you detest the idea of calling your clients, following up on potential sales, etc., maybe your choice is to do that which you fear most first every day. That way the seeming burden is lifted, and you feel freer the entire rest of the day. And, if you’re hardcore, maybe you give up your sales job for a bit, go to work in a call center to overcome your fear and hone your phone skills, then return to a career in sales better equipped to deal with your fear or have none of it at all.
Make sense? Great!
Now you’re armed with the knowledge that, ultimately, the sum of all fears is rooted in your mind. So…
You also know how to be successful by leaning into your fear.
If you’ve ever taken a personality test, you’ve probably rolled your eyes in disdain and thought to yourself,
“What a crock!”
Am I right? I’ve taken several in my lifetime and have, for the most part, always read the results thinking, “Eh, that’s kinda like me.” This time, however, I think I’ve found the Holy Grail of Briggs Meyers 16 personality tests — and the BEST part? It’s FREE to take!
Mike Dillard, a mentor of mine, (If you’re familiar at all with the world of network marketing and/or online businesses, you’ve likely heard his name. 🙂 ) recommended I take it, as a course of finding clarity in who I am (I’d already done a lot of soul-searching in my life, so this wasn’t a far-fetched leap.), why I do the things I do or have the reactions I have, the kinds of relationships that will suit me best, the top career choices for me, and, truly, a whole lot more. Now, I’m coachable, so I did as instructed… still a bit, like, “Okay, whatever.” When done, however, I have to say, Mike was right on point!
The premise behind these kinds of tests is that we all have a variety of personality types, to varying degrees, within us. What’s the norm, though, is that one trait is very dominant, while the others (although still present) are somewhat removed, thus allowing us to be identified by a specific type or combination of types. The same is true of this particular personality test. This one kinda forced me to look at a few things I knew was happening but didn’t fully understand the motivation behind what was happening.
For example, I KNOW I’m very principally-based. By default, things like honesty, trust, communication, and respect are paramount in my world. Well, I’d always sort of written off my entrepreneurial bug as an “authority issue” (which I’ll openly lay claim to, regardless lol), also became clear to me that, more often than not, is a matter of losing respect for a manager or upline who had broken one of these major links with me — most likely never being able to re-establish it. I pondered it for a bit… then agree 100%, as I reflect on previous jobs, managers, who worked well and who didn’t, who started off as great and why they didn’t end up that way, etc.
So, I FULLY endorse and encourage you to take this simple 10-15 minute test for yourself by clicking here.
Another example would be that I’d always “known” I was, mmmmm, let’s say different, okay? And, honestly, I came to terms with this as a child and am perfectly fine with having a fairly unique perspective, personality, will, and so on. Until taking this test, I didn’t know exactly how different. See, according to my results, I’m an INTJ. As such, I have “one of the rarest and most strategically capable personality types”, with only 2% of the population sharing my time. It doesn’t stop there, though, because… as a woman, I’m even more rare: Only .8% of the female population share my personality type combination. Who knew??? Depending whether the glass is “half full” or “half empty”, I suppose this could be seen as a blessing or curse. I, personally, choose to think of myself as extra special. What about you?
(Oh yeah… more and more companies are incorporating this kind of testing into their application and interviewing processes. Shouldn’t you know the results before they do???)
Find out your OWN Briggs-Meyers 16 personality results
— and don’t forget to share the party with your friends. 🙂